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When life is unpredictable, how do you make peace with uncertainty?

August 14, 2020

Wouldn’t it be great if this world offered guarantees? How good would it be, for example, if you could go on a first date with someone knowing whether the relationship was going to go the distance or not? Or apply for a job knowing whether you’d get the role – and enjoy it – or miss out completely?

Alas, this world offers no guarantees – but that doesn’t stop us looking for them. This is called ‘control’ and it shows up in us monitoring and overanalysing a partner’s behaviour to get assurance that they’re going to stay loyal. Or, like my friend’s mother, stocking up your pantry with hundreds of cans of food ‘just in case’ (this is pre pandemic, BTW). The desire to seek out assurances might seem harmless enough, but it lulls us into a pattern of believing that we can only feel safe if we know how things are going to work out – which is neither possible nor helpful.

The theme of personal power is again coming up strong in the cards this week. That means taking charge of our mindset and switching out of passive mode (ie b...

Your angel cards for August 10-16, 2020

August 9, 2020

The theme of personal power is again coming up strong in the cards this week. That means taking charge of our mindset and switching out of passive mode (ie blaming and complaining) and into action mode. There’s also a couple of messages around bolstering self-worth if that is an issue for you.

Need some extra motivation? This week's focus is on, well, focus and taking action towards our goals - which is very appropriate during Leo season! The cards...

Your angel cards for August 3-9, 2020

August 2, 2020

Need some extra motivation? This week’s focus is on, well, focus and taking action towards our goals – which is very appropriate during Leo season! The cards also remind us that although the Universe is there to support us and give us a boost, it cannot do the work for us. So if you want your life to change, it’s up to you to step up and make that happen.

Improving our love lives and healing from the past are both strong themes this week - and yes, it's likely they're connected.

Your angel cards for July 27-August 2, 2020

July 26, 2020

Improving our love lives and healing from the past are both strong themes this week – and yes, it’s likely they’re connected.

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When spirituality becomes unhealthy – the truth about ‘spiritual bypassing’

July 23, 2020

If your ideas about spirituality came from what you saw on Instagram, you’d probably think being spiritual was all about sparkly unicorns, chilled-out Buddhas and pink-hued quotes about manifestation. All of those things can be part of spirituality, but this pretty picture isn’t the whole truth. True spirituality has a much deeper, much grittier side. Being on a spiritual journey involves delving into difficult emotions and uncomfortable truths. It may require you to change your stance on issues, cut ties with certain people and cry profusely. It also even force you to realise that you might have been a bit of a dick in certain situations (d’oh!).

That last part – being accountable for your actions – is a big part of a spiritual journey. That doesn’t mean you have to go around apologising for every crappy thing you’ve ever done – which brings up the pain for the victim all over again – it just means understanding why you did what you did, and learning from it. Trouble is, lots of people are doing the exact opposite – they use spirituality to actually avoid accountability and the change and growth that go with it. This is spiritual bypassing, which means using the veil of spiritual beliefs to avoid the truth of something or to dodge accountability. Remember the word ‘bypassing’ means going around something, while true spirituality is all about going into something in order to heal it.

Here are four ways I’ve noticed spiritual bypassing showing up:

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