For the past three weeks consistently, an angel card has come up every week urging us to reward ourselves. Generally the angels will repeat a message because we are not taking it on board. Since this pattern has emerged, I thought I’d explore some of the reasons we sometimes struggle to treat ourselves – and why we absolutely need to.
What I’ve noticed is that when a message about doing something nice for themselves comes up, some people will cite feeble excuses why they “can’t”, and generally these involve a perceived lack of time or money. I’m sorry to sound a bit like your mum, but if you don’t have time to look after yourself, you are doing something very wrong. And the excuse about money doesn’t hold much currency either, because self-love does not need to cost money. But both of these are beside the point.
What’s really going on under the surface is that many of us don’t understand that we deserve to be looked after – and that that it is our job to bestow that care on ourselves.
To some people, the idea of making time for a pedicure, a yoga class or a nap on a Saturday afternoon seems like a treat that they aren’t entitled to unless they’ve done something special to earn it. And sometimes even when people do understand that it is important to treat themselves, they decide they’ll do that later when they’re not busy… you know… whenever that is...
Guys, we all need to do a better job of treating ourselves to rewards, and this is why. You are a child of the Universe, and therefore entitled to receive love and care. You do not have to earn that love and care, it is your birthright – and you are absolutely worthy of it. In fact, you are so valuable that the Universe has assigned two guardian angels to look after you and guide you – and there’s nothing you could do to get them to leave you. Your chief responsibility in this lifetime is to give love to others – but you can’t give away something that you don’t have yourself. If you are not willing to show love and care to yourself, how can you expect to receive it from anyone else? And actually, if you are not willing to show love and care to yourself, maybe you need to ask yourself some urgent questions about why that is (maybe there are some underlying issues related to self-esteem that you need to address).
If you take only one thing from this post, let it be this: you do not have to change anything to be worthy of love and care. This does not mean that you don’t have more work to do on yourself and on your relationships (we all do) – but it also doesn’t mean you are not worthy of treats and nourishment right this minute. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be right now, and you’re absolutely deserving of love. It starts with you.
Making time* for a 45-minute massage may not change your life but it’s a very good place to start.
*Notice I said ‘making time’ not ‘finding time’. No one has an abundance of time – it’s up to you to prioritise the hours that you do have.